I don’t like going to weddings. But in every summer I get to go to more than my fair share of them. It’s just one part of the social obligations that come with the ties we talked about before. And with the high number of young single men in the family, it seems there is always a wedding around the corner. We had one last month, another this week, and we have three upcoming weddings in one household scheduled for later this year. Below is a short video I took during a family wedding two days ago.
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mabrook and 3ogbalak :)
WE NEED MARRIAGE REFORM.
I am a 24 Saudi male and I have never had the thought of marriage, simply because I want to pick my own wife and no candidate was around for evaluation.
SHAME ON THIS CULTURE!
IS THIS WHAT YOU WANT? YOU DON’T WANT YOUR PEOPLE TO MARRY?
AND SHAME ON YOU MEN FOR LETTING YOUR MAMA CHOOSE FOR YOU LIKE IMMATURE KIDS.
Be honest to yourselves, gender segregation in this way is JUST IRRATIONAL AND IS NOWHERE OUTSIDE THE KINGDOM.
The good news is,
I am studying abroad and I will return with a degree and a wife. Ahmad maybe you should do something like that. KSU is taking too long from your life.
It is great to get to know your partner the one that you will spend the rest of your life with before marriage, but be mindful that Americans try out girls in order to select the ‘right’ one. The question is where do you draw the line or set up limits?
America is set up with a complete system consisted of signals/ words/ flirtations established by their culture. The system is taught through movies/ peers and used widely by single people. They have bars to express their interest in the opposite sex. It is a jungle and both men and women can be hunters. Now i don’t know how Saudis are going to swim or feel comfortable in these terrains, but let me tell you something: Thank Allah who gave us an alternative to this system. One in which the girl doesn’t get filthy before she gets married.
“, but be mindful that Americans try out girls in order to select the ‘right’ one.”
Not all of them do. You can still meet your own mate without “trying him/her out” before marriage.
Susanne-Agreed. But you are far more discreet than I. I was going to point out that not all of us “got filthy” before stealing an Arab Muslim from the marriage pool. Oh wait, it was all his idea. Okay, then, before submitting to a marriage proposal from an Arab Muslim. :)
That is racist. I was talking about America the system portraid to us by movies. The one that mocks a virgin and thinks of them less than others. By filth I meant diseased bodies and souls which can happen any where in the world including Saudi. What I was suggesting to this young man is be ware of slipping into the ‘American system’ known to us by movies. I also wanted him not to knock out everything traditionally done in Saudi and that he can integrate knowing his future partner without necissarily ‘trying her out’. English is not my first language and I should have been more explicit but I thought I was talking to people from the same culture.
Chill out.
Um Yunus–I apologize if anything I said was inadvertently racist. That was certainly not my intent. I’m glad you clarified, as your initial statement seemed more categorical than what you intended.
Interestingly, the comment addressed to me on another blog, that I read just before this one, describes me as too Islamophilic, Arabophilic, Xenophilic, whatever…too not loyal enough to Western culture and never condemning anything no matter how horrendous that happens in the Muslim world. But then the comment came from a self-described Islamophobe.
Ironic, isn’t it?
Please feel free to visit my blog. I am all distraught about the French burqa ban and the politics that go with it. All comments and viewpoints are welcome, as long as they are respectfully expressed, which I have no doubt you would do.
My apologies once again.
Ahmed–Nice post and video! Yes ’tis the wedding season, aka, matchmaking for next year season. :)